Confused

Ok, so I went on my second date with a guy (good to know it's a guy, right?) Anyhoo, we met last Monday and had a good time. We've talked and texted all week and we finally went out to dinner last night at The Melting Pot. I have always wanted to go there and we had fun, it was delicious!

I was in a "relationship" about a year ago with a guy who used me and my generosity. He was an all out con artist (as my dad labeled him)! And yes, Daddy was right. He lied about everything from the first time we met and from what I understand through a friend, he still plays his games on women. Thank God (literally) that I found out what he was/is and am far from dealing with that again.

Here is where my confusion sets in: I find it hard to trust men now. I use to trust too easily and didn't understand that there are "bad" men out there looking for the wrong thing in a wrong way. They can lie, cheat, and just down right treat you dirty. For their own satisfaction.

SO, I know its good that I pay attention to red flags, but do I over think it? I am having a good time with this guy and he knows where I stand on dating and issues of men. (As you can read from past posts, I am very open and honest about stuff). But, am I thinking too much? I have let him know it takes time for me to trust and why it takes time for me to trust. He seems to understand all of it and is being patient with me on those issues.

I just wish there was a sign telling me yes or no. I thought I received one yesterday when I asked for his address since we were meeting at his house before we left. At first he said, "Call me and I will talk you through it". I thought "OMGosh, what if he is a serial killer and no one will know where I am!". I have learned that you always tell a friend or family member where and when you will be somewhere on a date with someone you do not know very well. Then, as soon as I thought about the serial killer thing, I got a text with his address. Was this a sign that it was OK? I did email his info (address, full name, and phone #) to my sister in case I went missing. So, I trusted that it was a sign that it was OK.

So, we have a date again tonight to the movies and yes I am excited, but cautious. He got a text while we were out from a "friend" asking if he was ok. He even showed me the text because I gave him a "what kind friend" look. He said that he did use to go out with her, but considers her to be a friend. That she had been asking him, because he didn't respond to her other texts, and that was it. So, I let him know (in the kind mannerisms that I have, hehe) that I have gone out with guys who get texts like that and the girls were more than just friends. I said "I don't play that game". He knows about my trust issues. He said he understood and that it was really nothing. So I said "then text her back saying you're fine and maybe she will stop asking." He said he did after our date.

So, flags or no flags, I have it in my head to not fall right off the bat. I have joked about doing a background check (I have the friends to do this HAHA) and he said "I wish you would, I have nothing to hide". Maybe, I will later down the road. In addition, I may need to run a credit check, too. That's a big one!!!

So, those of you who are not in the dating world may find this crazy. But, those of you who are, completely understand. It's not just dating anymore......it's soooo much more complicated then that.

Comments and guidance, please....